Sexual SinPart 1
Greetings precious people. In todayís article we are going to continue looking at topics that are very relevant to our day and quite controversial. The reason for theyíre being controversial is our society rejection and refusal to live our lives by Godís Word, the Bible. In last weekís article we examined the subject of Divorce. The Bible makes it clear that God hates divorce. God ordained marriage and it is to be kept sacred. Unfortunately marriage has lost much of its importance. Divorce rate is just a little over 50%.
In todayís article we are going to begin a 3 part series on sexual sin. Today we will consider the sin of adultery and fornication. These two are not only the number one cause of divorce in our society, but also the cause of many other problems.
Letís first define adultery and fornication. Adultery is having sex with someone other than your spouse. Our past president attempted to redefine adultery and was somewhat successful; (at least as far as he was concerned, as far as God is concerned what he did with Monica is still considered adultery). Fornication is having sex outside of marriage. It is interesting to note the Greek word that is used for fornication; it is the word porneia. One of the words that come from the Greek word Ďporneiaí is pornography. As we will see, when the Bible speaks about fornication it is covering a larger area than that of simply having sex outside of marriage.
Now letís understand something else of great importance. God is not against sex. He placed the desire to have sex in and man and woman. Sex, when experienced in a marriage between a husband and wife, is a wonderful thing. It is not a dirty or shameful thing. God meant it to be enjoyed and pleasurable and as a way to populate the earth. It is only when mankind goes outside the parameters that God has set concerning sex that we begin to experience problems. Problems of great proportion as we are experiencing in our society today.
Listen to what the Bible says concerning adultery and fornication. One of the Ten Commandments forbids adultery. In Exodus 20:14, "You shall not commit adultery." Jesus also spoke on this, in Matthew 5:27, "You have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' The subject is also addressed in Hebrews 13:4, "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." 1 Corinthians 6:13, "Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body." 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, "Flee sexual immorality (fornication). Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality (fornication) sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's." Galatians 5:19-21, "Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God."
Many in our society look at God and what He has to say concerning adultery and fornication and think He is the Great Cosmic Killjoy, that He doesnít want people to have any "fun". But if we were to take an honest look at all the pain, suffering, and sorrow that accompanies adultery and fornication, we would realize the love, care, concern, and the best that God has in mind for man.
Think with me for a moment of some of the tragedies that have occurred because of adultery and fornication. For the person whose spouse has been unfaithful, you have experienced this first hand, and you know all too well the reality of the pain involved. On the part of the "victim" (the husband or wife of the spouse that was unfaithful) of adultery, there is immense hurt, great feelings of betrayal. Betrayal of trust, of that which had been entrusted to the other. And then there are the children that see and experience the heart ache that accompanies the actions of their parents; the unwanted pregnancies of which approximately half end in abortion; the ever increasing rate of STDís among our youth and adults. The list can go on and on of the unnecessary pain and suffering that occurs as a result of adultery and fornication.
As mentioned earlier, the word fornication comes from the Greek word "porneia" from which we also get the word pornography. Pornography is the cause of many problems in our society. Many of the sex crimes that are being committed against innocent women and children are being committed by those involved with pornography. David Westerfield is reported to have been deeply involved in child pornography, which no doubt greatly influenced him in what he did with little Daniel Van Dam. Tragically, the highest court in our nation recently struck down laws against child pornography.
As people view pornography, they begin to get a very distorted perception of others. They begin to view people as objects of sex, rather than fellow human beings. Oneís thinking begins to be consumed with thoughts of sexual perversion. One of the major problems that occur in a marriage where one of the spouses are involved with pornography is, the unrealistic expectations that they begin to have toward their spouse, they fail to realize that that which they view on the magazines, video, or over the internet is not reality. Real people donít live and act like that, which they are viewing. It is fantasy, and reality can never live up to fantasy
In all reality, sex can and does become a personís god. Whatever the master passion of a personís life is, that becomes their god. The pervasive thought in society today is that we can do whatever we want, whatever feels good, and not pay a price for it. How foolish for us to think so. We can not blatantly break Godís Law time an time again and think we will not suffer the consequences. We are experiencing some of those consequences already. Some of which have already been mentioned. But there are even greater consequences, eternal consequences if we do not repent of sin. Four times in the New Testament we are warned of the consequences of persistent sin. In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God."
Sexual sin is very strong and can be difficult to forsake. It affects the body, soul and mind. But there is hope! God is able, capable, and desirous of helping us out of this sin and every other. In the above-mentioned verses, Paul was writing to the Christians at Cornith. Corinth was a very wicked place. They had built temples to honor and worship their sex gods and goddesses. People would come to Corinth to take a holiday from morality. But listen to what Paul said in the following verse, 1 Corinthians 6:11, "And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." Notice Paul is speaking in the past tense. By the Grace of God, as the Corinthian believers heard the Gospel and placed their faith in Jesus Christ, they were able to turn from their sin, and begin to live for Christ. This is true for any today that will hear Godís Word and turn to Him for salvation.
If you are struggling with sexual sin today, there is hope. You donít have to live in that terrible bondage which will ultimately destroy you. You can be free. Jesus said that He came to set the captives free. You can have this freedom today.
If you have any questions, comments, or prayer requests you can contact me at: Calvary Chapel of Alpine, P.O. Box 1528, Alpine, Ca. 91903 or call 619-445-2589, or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org
Drew Macintyre is pastor of Calvary Chapel of Alpine